Ah, yes love. Most of us love the thought of “love”. We were made to be nourished, cared for, and loved by another person.
So there is nothing wrong with yearning for love, ya know.
But I see so many people looking for their “soulmate” through their D’Ms, online dating, apps, Craigslist (yes, Craigslist) and plenty more. I mean, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with those methods. Shit, I’ve used all of those and more, but lets just take a second to think. Shall we?
Why are we looking for the one when the one for us is right in front of the mirror.
Stop looking so tirelessly for a soulmate, and be your own.
It’s no secret that we humans attract what is a mere reflection of us. If you are broken, insecure, untrustworthy, or carrying baggage from another relationship. You are going to get that same person knocking at your door but with more baggage to come.
No more jumping over hurdles and chasing someone that should want to be with you.
No more changing who you are for someone who doesn’t even know themselves.
It’s time to FOCUS on YOURSELF and show yourself a little love.
So what is self-love?
Self-love is showing yourself the appreciation you truly deserve. It begins with you and ends with you. That includes self-respect and realizing self-worth.
How do I begin my journey?
Well, it’s simple. The moment you start putting yourself at the top of your list, you’ve taken one step forward. You shouldn’t place everyone else above you. On a personal note, I realized that I prayed for growth but rejected it when this certain person came into my life. I allowed a person to become more important than my own growth. That in itself was a BIG NO NO!
When you put someone over you and they get over you, it takes forever to get back to you. Get what I’m saying?
OK let me explain, the moment you give someone the luxury to be put before you, they will forever have a hold on you, and when things come to an end you will be the first one crying and shouting. And this would happen all because you decided to let someone run your life with a simple mind game. No, they weren’t playing to hard to get. They just didn’t care and had their way with you since you were there. That’s what happens when you go looking for someone to fill a void in your life and make you happy. When you put yourself first, your potential mates can’t help but to do the same.
That’s the beautiful thing about this journey: only your steps count.
The benefits of loving oneself is amazing. Your doubts disappear, your fears fade, you accept who you are, and you finally realize that you deserve more – and hurting you becomes difficult.
There’s nothing like looking in the mirror and loving what you see, speaking and loving what you hear, and knowing you aren’t perfect but loving how you feel.
There is no better feeling than that and you will not regret the journey you had to take to get there.
So can you truly say you are the love of your life? If the answer is no, you and a lot of other people have the same answer – but the truth of the matter is, we are all on this never-ending journey. There’s only one you in this shitty world, you might as well love it.
Self-love is the best love.